After some pictures with Chris's family was when I really started to notice Chris's nerves. So I grabbed him, pulled him aside and started to slow dance with him - no music of course just us holding, swaying slowly, trying to calm him down.
The part that I find funny about all of this is that traditionally the bride and groom don't see each other before the wedding. And even if you do see each other you're not really "with each other" because everyone is pulling you in a million different directions. All with good intentions of course because everybody else wants things to be perfect for you, it's just that after awhile it gets extremely stressful because you feel like you just want to run screaming from everything and say "I DON'T CARE! YOU MAKE THE DECISION!" Chris and I feed off of each others energy, so if one of us is nervous or tense, the other is. Or if one of us is happy and laughing, it won't be too long before the opposite is laughing. That day we really just needed each other, but with everything going on it was impossible to just be us.
So I tried, I really did, but between the rain, and pressure of the day Chris just wasn't having it. But I completely understood because that was the exact way I felt the day before with all of the decorating and last minute details.
Well after that we waited, and waited, and waited. For the rain to stop, for the sun to come out, for everyone to get there, and for the ceremony to start. But the rain didn't stop, and the people came, and the ceremony didn't start. I was completely ok with this. As a back up we were going to have everyone sit at their tables and get married under the chandelier - plan B. But I was really hoping for plan A to work out because from the beginning I've said I want to get married outside.
You know that saying "Hurry up and wait, hurry up and wait." Well that's how the next hour went.
Chris and I sat on the steps with our photog Jaynee and our officiant Malcolm and waited. We watched the radar and waited some more. Chris paced back and forth between the upstairs where we were and the downstairs where everyone else was piling into the bar area to stay out of the rain. Our ceremony was set for 5 o'clock and the radar showed that the rain would be just barely gone by then. So we waited some more. 4:45 came, tons of people were there but I wasn't ready to call it yet. I said let's wait until 5 minutes to and if we have it inside everyone can just make their way up and we'll start. Chris was panicing at this point not to mention angry at me because I was so calm. But I always heard it is good luck for it to rain on your wedding day, so I was perfectly fine with it! So I looked at him and said, "It's our wedding, they came here for us, they will wait." And we kept on waiting.
5 o'clock came and just like that the rain was gone! So we sent all the boys out to wipe down the chairs and just like that it was time to get married!
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